Bigotry by any other name…

I’ve been thinking a lot, lately, about what it means to be “in the minority.” I’m white, so, you know, obviously I’m in the majority on the race issue. I’m a woman, which isn’t a minority in this country. But, sure, there are oppression issues there. I’ve been incredibly lucky not to have been the brunt of them, though. At least, not to my knowledge. Career-wise, I was actually the most highly paid writer and editor in the company for which I worked. The men didn’t do so well in that area of the company–they were pretty lazy. The company before that? All women. In high school, I worked retail, in fabric stores and at Hallmark, and one time at a retail grocery store, but my Dad worked in the office, and I know I got a comparable wage.

OK, so I’ve personally never dealt with sexism, at least not in the workplace. (Ha! Well, not sexism related to pay…we won’t go into the coworker who flashed me.) So, what other prejudices might I deal with?

Well, religion, it turns out, can be a big one. Never has been for me before. I grew up in a community that’s got a large LDS population (I’d guess around 20%), and though most of my friends in high school were not Mormon, most of my friends (in town) now are. I’m surrounded by people who believe the same things I do. And my friends who don’t at all share my beliefs? They don’t really seem to care. We respect one another for the loving, intelligent people we all are. Why should anything else matter?

Interestingly, apparently it does. I’ve found that there are, indeed, some in this world who loftily claim to “accept all, regardless of their views,” who just can’t seem to do it.

To be clear, I’ve never made any such claim. I’ll be honest with you and tell you that it’s my goal to try. I’ll tell you that I believe it’s not my place to judge. And that I know I should love everyone. But some people really do make it so danged hard!

That said, I do still try. I’m not proud of my weaknesses. But I do also believe that no matter how much I love someone, there’s still such a thing as right and wrong. I know that the trend continues toward “anything goes,” and that my definition of right and wrong isn’t the same as everyone else’s. But I stand by it, and I’ll continue to defend it…at least, until the conversation becomes completely ugly and unproductive. It’s happened on more than one occasion, recently.

I’m alright, frankly, with the idea that some people just won’t like me. I just want them to stop avoiding the fact that when it’s because of my religious beliefs, it’s bigotry, just the same.


5 thoughts on “Bigotry by any other name…

  1. If only the world were full of people who truly didn’t judge. I know you’ve hit some rough spots recently but at the same time I’m glad you know there are those of us who adore you and respect your beliefs….and you do the same for us! :hug:


  2. Not to sound “cheesy” here, but I think that those of us who DON’T all think and believe exactly the same thing have learned a lot from each other over the last few months–because we have the mutual respect for each other. And I second what Anree said…definitely beautiful. 😉


  3. Jen, I respect you and your wonderful families religious beleifs wholeheatedly. I find all types of religion very fascinating. I can only hope that one day people can look past what they hear and see on TV about LDS and learn the truth. Not all mormons have 7 wifes and 24 children.


  4. 🙂 Thanks, Marete! Just as a side-note, actually, no Mormons have multiple wives. Any polygamists claiming to have anything to do with the Mormon church are misusing the name. The LDS church actually excommunicates any members who are found to have more than one wife…though I don’t know why anyone would want more than one!


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